Grief, anger, frustration, holding on, struggling to keep moving forward… they are all part of the grieving process and happen at different times for different people. We have previously written here about the process of grief in caring for a child with complex medical problems. But whether a child (or any family member) has died, or a family is grieving in the midst of complex care… one thing is certain at some point….TEARS!
Alison Sampson wrote a very poignant piece on the inevitability of tears in the latest version of Eureka Street. Alison does a beautiful job of unpacking how the tears often sneak up on you when they are least expected.
When have the tears caught up with you unexpectedly, and how do you handle it…. share your story about them in the comments section below to help others when they strike unexpectedly…
Recently it was my sons 16th birthday. Jack died when he was 5. The tears come at odd moments. Very little warning. They can be triggered by a sight. A sound. A smell.
Certain songs are like a stab to the heart.
I find myself shaking my head. Trying to shake out the sad memory. Shake away the tears.
Being a man in my 40’s, I have been bought up with a culture of no crying. Many times I wish I could.
Swallowed tears are the most bitter and painful.
Thanks Stephen, it just shows that the grieving never goes away…. if it comforts you at all I recently came across this quote “Though we have a say in how long and how painfully we suffer after a loss, pain is inevitable in life. To grieve the loss of someone wonderful means to have been honored enough to know them”.